A Hermit Can Be Happy After All
Part of a group? Do you truly love being part of a group or are you swayed by the idea of being in a group for the sake of belonging? What is the need to fit into an idea? Being alone or being in a group has got to do with each of our personality traits. Some of them are comfortable in a group setting while the remaining are happy being on their own. Most of our lives we are being taught about the significance of team building and team spirit and the idea of aloneness has always taken a back seat without much of an explanation.
Aloneness is often being misinterpreted as eccentricity. One who is a loner need not be a loser. In our own experiences, we cannot deny times we had been comfortable spending time or doing something on our own, whereas we had trouble being in a particular team setting. The idea is that not all team environment is conducive to our happiness as it is perceived to be and many teams are mere crowds. Most crowds overreact being happy but the reality is most of the time, we compromise a lot about ourselves when we are part of a group.
Tasks that can be accomplished or experiences that we get when we are alone can elevate us to a different level that we never thought possible when we were doing as a part of a team. You never have to be ashamed of being an introvert. Introversion has its own positives than it has been understood. Most of the people see it as a weakness as the person in question tends to talk less and is perceived to being fearful and insecure. But the opposite is true. A person who is a happy loner doesn't have to justify himself through his over-talking in order to be accepted by others. He is free of others' judgments and utters words only when it is necessary. One important aspect that this trait can give you is, you gain self acceptance easily than anyone else. You have enough opportunities to introspect and face your own inner talents and inner demons to take control accordingly. More importantly introverts gain individuality much easier than the other counterparts
as he focusses on himself in the time that others spend on inter-personal relationships.
Isn't that simple? Why waste time and energy on being someone else other than yourself? You can be happy even when you are alone and never have to feel guilty about it. Life is all about making best of your abilities and the need to fit into someone else's idea should never tamper your growth.