Deciding To Move On.
Yikes! It is never easy to come to a decision to move on from a marriage,
relationship, career even an addiction but so many of you are facing such
decisions and I am here to encourage you along and give you the spiritual
proverbial slap to get you started if need be.
Often we can be thinking our past experience will be the one waiting for us
in our future - this statement could not be further from the truth! Anything
that gets attached to our heart or at times our pocketbook are the things
that when they get to the point of undervaluing and/or disrespecting
ourselves we need to ask - do we want to stay or move on?
Arriving and being at this moment shows how empowered you have really
become. It takes emotional maturity through growth that allows ourselves to
ask this question and then to take the necessary action. Brava!
So often when I am reading for a Tarot client on ZodiacLiveTarot, they are
being confronted with this issue. What is often astonishing for me as their
reader is the emotional growth that has taken place within the client along
with their ability to still be and act as a compassionate, emphatic and
forgiving person to the people they have to leave behind. Wow!
Sometimes it is our reluctance to believe another person could be so weak in
their personality and character that makes us feel we are standing still,
waiting - which we are. We often continue hoping our lover or boss will
change their approach and attitude. It is their lack of change that often
spurns on our reason to finally examine a relationship and what we need to
do about it if the conclusion is not one that respects and values us.
This is a moment of empowerment! Believing and knowing we have a choice in
our own destiny is power! Many times it was the feeling of having no say or
voice that starts our thinking towards a new direction.
One of the divine dilemmas of being intelligent, feeling individuals is our
ability to make decisions. At various points of maturity in our lives, we
may make choices based on pure attraction and animal instinct or experience
may have taught us other characteristics and insights need to come into our
decision making; especially the one honoring ourselves first.
Like the season of spring following winter, this moment represents a
milestone in a change of life. We all have this type of encounter when we go
from teenager into adulthood, or when we get married or divorced. These are
examples of how life is a continuing cycle and is never the same again.
We can mourn these changes as if we lost a good friend so it is ok to
acknowledge a change has taken place and do what is necessary for us to get
on track. We need to celebrate the end to stagnant and oppressive conditions
and allow new attitudes and mindsets to emerge. We may have even become
comfortable in our unhappiness, too afraid to change, but if we can accept
and celebrate our new direction the sooner we can enjoy the benefits the
change was designed to deliver.
I know change can seem frightening, especially if our past has been built
around others we are now separated from, but we need to embrace this change
or we can get stuck in a yesterday that is no longer possible. God/universe
wants you to do this as well! Like the Yellow Brick Road that greets Dorothy
in the Wizard of Oz, your new adventure is laid out before you! Will you
take these first steps? I think this new you will!