Are You Nervous?
Going on a first date with someone can be nerve-wracking for some of us. We worry about what to wear, we keep thinking about what to say, or how to present ourselves. We fear that the other person won’t like us, or that we won’t like the the other person. If you're feeling anxious about your first date with a new potential partner, keeping your anxiety levels under control is really important to have a successful outcome.
Keeping busy during the day before your date is a great way to avoid putting pressure on yourself. Listen to empowering music, your favourite bands, or do anything that makes you feel good and optimistic. Dedicate your time to get some work done, or doing a hobby is also wonderful to reduce your anxiety levels. If you spend all day thinking about everything that can go wrong, or how you expect things to happen during the date, you may decrease your level of confidence and reinforce negative thoughts about the outcome of the date.
If you want to showcase your best self, you need to be emotionally balanced. It's very important to find inner peace and learn to love yourself and your life before you bring a new person to share a life with you. Meditation can help you to channel positive energy and take control of your emotions before your date. Sit on a comfortable place, in a comfortable, straight position (somewhere private and quiet), close your eyes, take several deep breaths and think happy thoughts. Appreciate the silence around you, and put yourself in the present moment. When meditating, don't think about the date, and don’t think about your worries, just live the moment you are in. Believe me, practicing some meditation will make you feel more relaxed, and will help you to make a good first impression, because we are able to attract positive reactions when we feel good about ourselves.
Your only goal is to be who you are. During the date, paying attention to your body language, and making eye contact when you speak will project confidence, and make the conversation flow more easily and comfortably. Listen to what your date say, and then respond to his/her comments. Try not to talk about yourself too much, be careful not to make a conversation self-centered. Start by discussing a movie you've both seen recently, a particular song or band that you both like listening to, or other shared experiences. One of the best ways to get more comfortable with the other person, is to keep it simple. Gaps in conversations are normal, and you can always ask questions instead of trying to think of different things to say.
Let go of perfectionism: the pressure to perform, please and be perfect can make you to carry a heavy weight, and nurture impossible expectations. Nobody is perfect. Lots of anxiety comes from feelings of judgment. Understand that you have nothing to prove, and whether this person is the love of your life or not, only the future will tell. The only thing you need to do now is to have a great time. Tell yourself that you can do this, center yourself and be confident. Remember that simple things become complicated when you expect too much. Send positive intentions and go with the flow: sometimes the best matches are the ones you least expect.