Jealousy
In the latest episode of the popular BBC production Downton Abbey, jealousy
plays a leading role in a dramatic show down between the two sisters who
live at the namesake of the series. Each sister has a love interest where
they are weighing decisions about their relationship futures when one,
through her own actions experiences an emotional set back igniting her
jealousy towards the other. This stewing of jealousy prompts her to reveal a
secret that blows apart her sister's martial and happiness prospects. Such
is the power of jealousy.
It can pop up anywhere, love, family, work, friends anywhere a heart's
desire gets fixated you can find the potential for jealousy. Like a bad
toothache once the infection takes hold it requires a good yank to get rid
of. The same when jealousy takes hold of our spirit and heart we need to
remove the infection of our insecurities, fears and blames, because once
settled in it only continues to grow.
The legendary green eyed monster of our personality jealousy has been
written and sung about for centuries. This has probably been so because all
of us have been touched by its wicked finger. Some of us still do. Jealousy
has to be one of the biggest factors of stress if you are in such an
encounter. There is help and it starts with valuing and respecting
ourselves.
As a Tarot reader I encounter many a kind soul who is in the midst of stress
and confusion because their lover has dropped out of communication and
connection, leaving them broken and wondering why. Many times this question
of why can eat at the confidence and value they have in themselves turning
it into doubt and jealousy. The cards will point out through the journey of
love we need to have such encounters to learn what we want out of a partner,
is equal to knowing what we do not want. And when our true nature starts to
change because of others then we know we need to take a step back to gain an understanding it is not our fault or how we want act.
My Grandmother always used to say, 'you cannot control the thoughts and
actions of others, only those of yourself.' This sage advice has helped
guide me through many a difficult encounter, especially with regards to
issues of jealousy; from my own point of views as well as encounters with
others.
When our thoughts recognize we have started an internal conversation based
on jealousy, we must learn to change the conversation to working out the
issues of jealousy instead of letting it guide our thoughts and actions. By
knowing we must value and respect ourselves completely, jealousy will have
no place in our heart or thoughts. You know your worth and feel it is a
prize to yourself and others. You value the wonder for the positive as well
as understand when it is move away from others when you have this
appreciation.
We can also look honestly at situations that spark our jealousy to activate
so we can extinguish its fire from starting. We then can look at the
situation we are facing clearly without the thick veil of jealousy to cloud
our judgement. There is freedom and empowerment in this type of thinking.
When we like ourselves enough jealousy does not have a place to even enter
the conversation.
If you are the one instigating trouble or the cause of another's down fall
because of your jealousy issues - stop. You need to get hold of the belief
you have in yourself to navigate the outcome and healing properly.
Throughout the Downton Abbey series, just about everyone knew the potential
for harm from one sister's appalling behavior when she choose to be mean
spirited and jealous but yet no one called her out completely so she could
stop. Do not be this sister or an idle bystander. When given the freedom to
expand and feel it can play anywhere, jealousy will hurt everyone,
eventually including you.
