Learn How To Communicate, Learn How To Speak
Good communication is the key to success. In social situations, being a good listener means being a good conversationalist. Listening is half of a successful conversation. If you want to improve your communication skills, you need to realise that the most effective way to get people's attention is to give them yours. When you truly listen to someone, when you offer them your full attention, you're demonstrating respect in a powerful way. Communication is a skill that can be learned, and it is a very important skill, because it can make or break most relationships. You can improve your life in a very positive way right now, by improving the way you talk to others around you.
If you have an extroverted personality, you will find it easier to express yourself in any social situation, or at least you will be able to get to talk to people without feeling inadequate. But, everyone has a different conversational style, and if you are considered an introvert, social situations can be a real challenge. If you want to communicate effectively, you should try to organise and clarify ideas in your mind before you talk. Sometimes we have strong feelings about a topic, and because of that, we find it hard to communicate our views and opinions in a calm and clear manner. When you talk, It is important to deliver your message in a nice way, so that the message comes across clearly and assertively, but never in an intimidating way. You need to choose your words carefully, so people instantly understand what you are saying. This requires being open to listen to the other person, make eye contact and giving them space to share their views too. When you talk, it is important to remove distractions, so turn off all electronics that could interrupt the conversation. This will make the other person feel special, and it will show that you are not allowing external distractions to shift your concentration.
Lots of people hate small talk, but we should be aware to the fact that small talk can transform into a more meaningful conversation. Any kind of relationship rely on small talk to begin with. Don't be afraid to initiate a conversation, remember that you just need to find the right things to talk about. Try to learn from each interaction with a new person. The world becomes a more interesting place when you discover that a person you've never met before may give you new perspectives, may introduce you to new things, and contribute to your life in a positive way.
If you feel that you are not very good at talking to others, remember that speaking comfortably with others is not an easy task. The way people react to you will depend on what's going on in their minds, and how you express yourself. You need to speak in order to be understood, but you also need to keep in mind that others will only open up to you if you show that you're interested in them too. You need to speak to engage to the other person, not to get a reaction from them. When you communicate based on reactions, you prioritise how you feel about what is being said over the feelings of the person speaking. Whenever you feel like someone isn't listening to you, try really listening to him or her first, and then see what happens. If you can, put yourself in the other person's shoes and assure them that you can imagine feeling how they feel. It's important that you find common ground with the people with whom you communicate by asking questions, making observations, and then revealing related stories, thoughts, or experiences from your own perspective.
Always be present and avoid thinking about what you want to say next. When you are too focused on what you want to say, you'll miss some of the things that the other person is saying. Whether we want to admit it or not, we love to talk about ourselves, but it is vital to make the other person never feel like we are ignoring them. Remember to let the other people talk about themselves, to use their name when you refer to them, to listen when they talk, and also try to look for similarities between both of you, because this will make them feel special.
You can learn from each interaction you have. Be open-minded. when you are open to new experiences via the conversation with another person, you are practicing the skills you need in order to have better relationships. Learning to communicate better means that you speak in such a way that others love to listen to you, but you also listen in such a way that others love to speak to you.
