Letting Go Of Expectations
I'm In Love
We could be looking towards the heavens for a miracle or divine intervention
to make things work out when we are at the crossroads of realizing we may
not achieve the true love we envisioned with another; this can be especially
true if a lover has pulled away and you are left wondering where you and
your relationship stand. Rarely is this a pleasant location to land our
Love can have different ideals for different people. And as varied as the
ideals are reasons we may need to be separated from someone we love. Who
hasn't bemoaned the realization of understanding the person we love turned
out not to be the person we thought they were. And the guilt and the
self-punishment we can apply to berate ourselves. Was it something I did not
see? Was it something I did? What was it?
Sometimes it is our reluctance to believe another person could be so weak in
their personality and character that makes us feel we are standing still,
waiting - which we are. We often continue hoping our lover will change their
approach and attitude. It is their lack of change that often spurns on our
reason to finally examine a relationship and what we need to do about it if
the conclusion is not one that respects and values us.
One of the divine dilemmas of being intelligent, feeling individuals is our
ability to make decisions. At various points of maturity in our lives, we
may make choices based on pure attraction and animal instinct or experience
may have taught us other characteristics and insights need to come into our
decision making. In the Tarot deck there are several cards that ask us to
take an honest assessment of our true feelings and those of another - and
they teach us value and respect are at the core of our truest loves.
Often in a Tarot reading a client will have the encounter of the Four of
Cups when they are seeking answers for a lover not connecting any longer.
Fours refer to benefit and in regards to the Cups you receive the benefit of
a review of the relationship. The journey of the Cups begins with an upsurge
of emotional energy and desire to connect, on to feeling in-love and then we
celebrate the start of relationship and now, we arrive at a true evaluation
of your love. This is an interesting place for some because it requires an
honest, hard look of the good and the bad - to weigh out your next move.
People are human. They lie, they cheat, and all sorts of things that do not
value and respect us. This is part of learning what true love really is. I
have learned through many Tarot readings that encounter this card, if there
is something gnawing at your internal meter of doubt and discontent - this
is the time to bring the issues out to yourself. If we do not acknowledge
these thoughts to ourselves, they will only dig-in deeper and drive up our
suspicion and feelings of betrayal. If you have conducted this exercise be
proud and strong in your decision, not weak and punishing. We also cannot
move completely forward in love if we are deceiving and undervaluing
Regardless of your love outcome there is something to be learned by the
experience - and it is about you! That it is why it is important to focus on
what is truly - and that is the key word: truly - best for you. By
reconnecting with your confidence within - you will be making your choices
with a balanced head and heart away from fear and punishing thoughts!
The deeper meaning of this quest is to find in another someone we can fully
give our spirit and soul to; where we can weather the storms and enjoy the
happy moments too. When we truly feel this in another we connect with the
part of us that is capable of giving and receiving unconditional love.