Over Your Worries
Negative thoughts and feelings distract us from the good things in life. It’s easy to forget all the good things we have going on, when we immerse ourselves in negativity. In order to live a happier life, we need to focus on the many reasons that we all have to be happy about and grateful for. Only when we understand the futility of worrying, we are able to learn to live freely.
I’ve learned that being unhappy is like an addiction. Some of us can get used to being dissatisfied all the time, and it becomes a habit that is very hard to change. Sometimes, we say that we are being practical or realistic, as an excuse to focus on the negative. The lack of awareness of the negative feelings that we have can build up tension and stress in our system over the years, and can adversely affect our health and mental well-being. Worrying focus our mind on the problem, instead of trying to find a solution, or expecting a positive outcome. The energy and time spent in worrying could be channeled into something productive. We must understand that life is like the tides; we have our highs and lows. We will have problems as long as we are on earth, but we can find peace no matter what. Learning to deal with, and overcoming adversity, is what builds character and resilience.
I used to make it a personal mission to take on the world’s problems as my own. Worrying became a habit, and unconsciously I was always trying to explore the negative aspects of the problems I was facing, finding reasons to be miserable, feeling enslaved to my emotions and powerless to change. When I finally decided to change my perspective, I realised that if I want to find reasons to be unhappy, I will find them. When we are facing adversity, we give ourselves the permission to be miserable, because we assume that our happiness depends on our personal circumstances. People that are generally happy, are aware that they are in control of how they feel. They choose to be that way, despite of what is happening in their lives. They take personal responsibility for their choices, and focus on things that gives them purpose.
No matter how big is the problem that you are facing now, it shall pass. If you adopt a different perspective, you are able to find God's purpose in times of trouble. By being patient and staying mindful of the present moment, you can give yourself the space to cope with hardship. If you feel overwhelmed by your worries, take some time to yourself and shut off your mind from all the stress around you. Turn off your phone, put away your work, and don't let anyone disturb you. Train yourself to change your focus, and you will be able to relax, feel more positive, and to feel more gratitude about all of the good things in your life.
When we don’t take care of our emotional and spiritual side, we stop feeling pleasure even in the events that used to make us happy. Remember to take a few minutes to recharge and shift your thoughts anytime you are plagued with feelings of overwhelming worry, sadness, loneliness. Learn to fight negativity, and nurture your inner peace by taking deep breaths, and being mindful of your surroundings. Allow negative emotions to express themselves and watch them change. Then, send out good intentions and ask for positive energy. Finding inner peace is a rewarding process: when you understand that you can find joy and fulfilment in where you are, who you are, and what you do right now, you can live a blissful life.