Resentment And Healing
When we want to move forward in life, and learn to move past the pain we've experienced along our journey, we have to pay attention to our feelings, in order to understand why we are having them. I’ve learned on my own that healing is a result of self love. We need to love ourselves a lot, to let go of the resentment that we carry, and make the choice to forgive and forget. In order to to this, we don’t need to confront the person we resent and tell them how bad they upset us and what they can do to fix the situation… we need to release the part of us that hates this person, or wishes him or her harm, without their acknowledgment. We should let go of resentment for the simple fact that, if we hang on to these negative feelings, they will plague our own lives forever.
Forgiveness is a choice, and sometimes, it can be a long process, because the pain is so deep that we won’t be able to brush it aside and act like nothing happened. Even if that is the case, there’s no benefit for us in holding it off. If you spend all your time trying to make the person who hurt you feel terrible, you will feel more stressed out, angry, and bitter, and it won’t solve anything. Holding grudges, will allow the negativity from the person who hurt you, to cause you even more harm.
If you want to heal and move forward, I have a simple technique that can help you to release negative feelings, and focus on healing. First you need to access your feelings, and reflect on what caused you to be upset with the person you resent. Allow yourself to experience again what the other person did, that is causing you to be hurt, angry, bitter, and frustrated. Now, visualise a yellow light entering your body from the top of your head and spreading inside you, fighting all those negative emotions that you are experiencing. Feel the power of the light, brightening your soul, and visualise the negative emotions being released from your body. Embrace the light and it’s positive energy. Empower yourself with the inner peace that you now have, and allow this feeling to remain, because you love feeling this way, and you had the courage to let go of resentment.
Now, you can look at yourself as a learner instead of a victim of the situation. You are able to focus on how your life will improve because you left all those negative emotions behind you. You now know that you can not go back and change anything about what happened that caused you pain, and you understand that anything that you are not able to change, is not a concern to you anymore.
When you accept the circumstances and stop resenting who wronged you, you are no longer linked to that person. Healing also comes from dedicating some of your time to forgive yourself to leave all the guilt you carry with you behind. Stop judging your past actions and permit yourself to experience strong positive feelings, such as joy, generosity, and faith in yourself. Let go of the high standards you impose to yourself, and also other people's expectations for you. Stop punishing yourself because life is to preciously short for bitterness. Developing a habit of gratitude in life, and letting go of the harm we do to ourselves when we resent someone, is life changing. Aim for the future and all the amazing things it holds for you.