Healthy Relationships
Article Written By Beverley
( Clairvoyant | Healer | Natural Medium )
Healthy relationships are important to live happier but there is no such thing as perfect relationships. The relationships we form in life, have the potential to enrich our lives and add to our enjoyment in general. However, these same relationships can cause discomfort, and sometimes even cause damage to our emotional state. A healthy relationship should bring more happiness than stress into your life. Every relationship will have stress at times, but it should not be a source of negative emotions on either member of the relationship. A healthy relationship is based on trust, mutual respect, honesty, support, equality, enjoyment, separate identities and good communication.
In order to form healthy relationships, you need to understand that your own health and well-being are important. You need to value yourself so you can also value another person. If you feel that you currently have an unhealthy relationship in your life, once you can recognise what it is that is causing you to feel overwhelmed, drained, or, simply, bad in your relationship, you need to take the time to determine what needs to be changed, in order to set boundaries in your relationship with this other person. When you fail to communicate how you feel, and you want to make someone happy even at the expense of what’s best for you, you are prioritising others and putting yourself last.
You are in an unhealthy relationship if:
-You feel worried when you disagree with the other person;
-You experience a lack of fairness and equality;
-You feel pressure to quit activities you usually/used to enjoy;
-Notice your partner attempts to control your actions and behaviour;
-Have a lack of privacy, and may be forced to share everything with the other person;
-Experience yelling or physical violence during a disagreement;
-Do not make time to spend with one another;
-Have no common friends, or have a lack of respect for each others’ friends and family;
-Start to change who you are for the other person
Relationships become unhealthy when we worry so much about how the other person perceive us, or the other person's feelings, that we forget to look out for our own needs. If not careful, we act from a place of fear, rather than love. We need to acknowledge the emotions behind our choices, because neglecting them can block us from doing what’s best for ourselves, and damage our relationships. That’s why being assertive about our values gives us the chance to practice self love and release the ego's fearful perceptions. Practicing self-compassion will help you learn to love and accept yourself, and that will make it easier for you to become stronger in your emotional interactions with others. Keep your emotions separate from other person’s emotions, although you empathise with the people you care about.
Set some time aside for yourself every day. Get grounded within yourself. Take the time to do some breath work, meditation, or to tune in with your body and soul in order to connect to your inner essence and nurture your sense of self worth. This simple technique can stop anxiety or poor self-esteem to prevent you from taking care of yourself. In order to become stronger emotionally, you have to understand what your thoughts about yourself and the world are. These thoughts are responsible for your emotional responses. You have the choice in how you want to feel and you have the ability to act on it. By taking the time to be with your own thoughts, reflect, and analyse your feelings, you are able to consciously make the distinct difference between yourself and the other person. Always remember that you have the right to eliminate toxic people from your life, those who would manipulate and abuse you.
Try to surround yourself with supportive people who respect you and your choices. That’s the only way to build healthy relationships that makes you feel good and have good self-esteem. Remember that a positive relationship is where you respect each other’s individuality, have activities apart from one another, are able to express yourself to the other person without fear of consequences and you are able to feel secure and comfortable.
